Well. I haven’t posted in a few days. I told myself I was not going to post any more negative things in a blog for a little while. And……here I am again. Needing to blog. Let’s see…..where do I start. Well. I should start by telling you I just feel numb right now. I really don’t want to live here in Oklahoma and I want to be back in AZ so bad. I am numb because for the first year in my life, I might not be able to buy anyone Christmas gifts including my very own kids. How on earth do you think that makes me feel?? You got it. Numb. Before reading this any further, I have to warn you, this is personal. And who knows, after a day or two, I might even hit delete on this post.
Ok…….it all started back about 8 yrs. ago. I had a miscarriage with our 5th child. I was 14 weeks along. I started going through a deep round with depression. At that time, my husband had insurance and a very well paying job. So, when I was evaluated, they told me I needed to be on an anti depressant. I couldn’t do it at that time. I was so afraid of what someone from my former church would think of me. I knew most of them would say it was a lack of faith on my part and I did not need the medicine. So, my husband got transferred not to long after that. We moved to Phoenix,AZ. So, again, I was depressed because I didn’t make friends right away and was far away from my family, and whoever else that lived here. This time, I went back to the doctor after about 6 more months of crying every day. So, I agreed that I needed to be on an anti depressant. Things were going fine. I was meeting people, enjoying life. And then, it happened. The accident. Yes, my husband shattered his heel in 25+ fractures. Doc told him he would never be the same and could not stand on his feet for long periods of time. So, he started doing the business with me. However, his former employer told him to quit. They would not fire him. They also would not provide a job for him either though. So, 15 years of loyalty and now a whole new ball game for my husband. I kept trying to tell him everything would be ok. And, I also told him we should both be thankful that he didn’t kill himself on this accident (not work related btw). So, what does one do?? Well, we had to end up filing for bankruptcy. See, I told you this was going to get personal.Things were really hard then. However, it was preparing me for now. We lived for awhile on his 401 k earnings and the earnings from my business. Well, as most of you know, the stamp companies and stores have a had a few hard years. So, here we are again. trying to set goals for ourselves to generate ideas and plans on bringing in income to the family. Well, husband just started today on a part time job. We tried to get a second mortage on the house here. But, because of our medical bankruptcy still being on the books until April, they won’t touch it. So, the only hopes I have at this time are of getting approved with a refinance.
I now look at life with a diff. view. I can not do what I used to do. And, alot of times…..that hurts. I can’t go buy a cd if I want the newest release ( like Gwen’s new cd coming out on Tuesday….<smile>). I can’t buy art supplies or any little small thing I see.
I do appreciate life more and soon I will auction off alot of my Longaberger baskets and have all ready worked on selling off other materialistic things.
Then, my mind is not strong enough now to even handle the thought of losing some weight and becoming healthier. But, it is something I do desire to do. I am so sick of being fat. Again, after the miscarriage, I have been able to lose like 2o here and there. But, it comes back. I don’t like looking at myself in the mirror. I don’t like taking pictures either. But, here is the strange thing. I don’t like the way I LOOK right now, being overweight. But, I do like who I am.
I will survive. I will get through this. PLEASE do not feel sorry for me. This is my path in life right now for some reason. I have to walk it.
One day, there will be happiness again. I do so appreciate my family. Thank you God for all of their health and that they are alive.
And to all of my friends…..thank you for your smiles. Thank you for your friendship.To my artists friends…. Your art inspires me as well as encourages me.